a constellation of chaotic order

Whoever said “the grass is greener on the other side” first is a pure genius. Although there’s not one scientific explanation saying its true, the empirical experiences said enough. It’s not a secret that human always longing for something that we can’t have.

Have a high-paid job, longing for a long vacation. Have a beautiful family, longing for a successful career. Have a million subscribers on YouTube, longing for a little privacy. Have one content life, longing for others chaos.

As we grow older, we tend to see things in paradoxical manner. We see other’s success as our failure. We start to keeping score between ourself and other people. The problem is, too many biases along the way; life is not a fair competition to begin with. We can’t compare our chapter 3 to other’s chapter 10. A high school student couldn’t compete with a bachelor degree. It’s just not fair.

Comparing yourself to others, is the most powerful form of self-destruction

Life is like a constellation of chaotic order. Once seemed so simple evolved into something complex. Maybe it’s not us that changed, maybe it’s our expectation and how we see things. We see roadblocks as failure. We see hardship as failure. We see delayed as failure. We see setback as a failure. We see ourself, as a failure.

“but perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you, and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you” [2:216]